As a mother: 5 tips to protect your intimacy

Is "loss of intimacy" as a matter of course in the small print of becoming a mother?
In the midst of all the chaos that comes with this new role as "mother," without realizing it, we are left behind - as if our dreams or our lives as a couple are incompatible with this new phase we are going through.

Fatigue consumes us. The lack of time to take a quiet shower and to take time for yourself is becoming more and more entrenched in everyday life - and so, without realizing it, our intimacy falls by the wayside - we long for it as soon as we get up, again to go to sleep

But do not worry! I don't mean to scare you with these lines, but to give you a few tips that have worked for me to make intimacy and motherhood totally compatible:

* Go on dates: Just like you did when you went on a trip together. Make a date with your partner alone once a week, once every fortnight or at least once a month. But... how do you do that with the kids at home? Ideally, you can count on someone you trust to watch over you during this time. But if you don't have anyone, it's a good time to start this date at home (with soft music, candles, and a special dinner) once the kids are asleep.

* Remind yourself what you love about your partner: Recalling the qualities that made you fall in love with them will awaken feelings and sensations that take you back to a time when romance was in the air . Jokes and funny anecdotes will pop up. And remember that sharing a smile strengthens your bond.

* Watch a romantic film together: If you watch something together and share the anticipation of what is to come, you have a topic of conversation and a space for intimacy that allows you to escape from everyday life.

* Don't be ashamed of your body: Don't let it stop you from enjoying your sexuality. It's a fact that when we become mothers, our bodies change. You are perfect just the way you are. You gave life and that makes you a wonderful being.

* Don't be afraid to try new things: sexy lingerie (we have a wide range) will boost your confidence and energize you. Games also get you out of your routine. Don't be afraid of sex toys or creative ideas either - role-playing games, for example, are also a wonderful option.

Have you already put any of these tips into practice?

And do not forget...
A couple that keeps love, closeness, complicity and sexuality alive lays the foundation for a harmonious environment ideal for the development of happy children.

Author: Jhoselin Orozco