Alone on Valentine's Day? A few ideas

Being alone on Valentine's Day can make you feel like the only person without a partner. Don't be fooled by media messages, social media, storefronts, and advertisements that make you feel like you're missing out by not being in a relationship. First, because there are many reasons why you might be alone on Valentine's Day (also because whether or not you get into a relationship is a personal choice), and second, because it's not true that you're the only one alone : Many, many people are in the same situation. Keep this in mind and remember to silence the inner voice that is attacking you. If this date is weighing you down, most of all, be kind to yourself. You may yearn to find love, but remember that it doesn't diminish your worth as a person.

With that in mind, the best way to deal with the feelings of loneliness and melancholy that February 14 brings is to practice self-care and gratitude.

self care

The love of your life should be reflected in the mirror, so you should cultivate romance with her or him. I don't mean that you should embrace narcissistic behavior, I mean that you should learn to love and value yourself regardless of whether you are in a romantic relationship with someone or not. And you know what's the best part about it? This is something you can do every day.

gratitude

It's so typical that we complain about what's wrong with us and get upset about what we don't have or lack. How about changing the focus? If you're reading this, you'll need an internet connection, a smartphone or laptop, light, a room... You get the point, but sometimes we forget the really important things. Many people are missing things that we take for granted. We worry about not having a cake or a card to post on Instagram on a given day, while many people have worse worries every day.

A few ideas for Valentine's Day without a partner

• Pajamas, blanket, sofa and a film or series marathon - order something delicious to eat and it will be a day like any other!
• Disconnect from social media. Whether it's to protect yourself from the bombardment of pink-themed ads and posts or to avoid stalking your ex, take care of your sanity.
• Host a santa game for Valentine's Day. It's been proven that people are happier when they give gifts (more so than when they receive them!), so round up your friends and suggest something along those lines. If you want to stay away from hearts and red ribbons, you can make your own rules. Ultimately, it's about doing something that makes you feel good.
• Communicate with someone. You never know who might be lonely on Valentine's Day, so give someone a call and tell them about it. There's probably someone in your life that you don't talk to that often, so why not take the opportunity? A message can also serve the purpose. We all like to be reminded.
• Take advantage of the fact that sales are still on to go shopping. Shopping therapy isn't the answer to your woes, but when there are some sales coming up on Valentine's Day, who says you and a friend can't take advantage of them?
• Romantic date with yourself (this is definitely my favorite plan.) Buy your favorite food, dessert, and/or wine and prepare an evening just for you, where you don't have to share anything. But since every romantic date requires preparation, how about a long aromatic bath, followed by a manipedi session and a face mask? Do what you feel comfortable with. Candles and background music are a must. If you love flowers, don't wait for someone to send them to you, decorate your home with your favorite bouquet. And of course, don't forget to choose the right lingerie for the occasion (remember, lingerie isn't just for special occasions, it's for a lot more)!

To put it in other words

Sometimes the negative aspects catch up with us, but being alone also has its advantages (yes, even on Valentine's Day): independence, being master of your time, not being forced to share or negotiate plans with anyone, more autonomy to have in your decisions?

Even with a partner, in our (perhaps) chaotic life, finding some time for yourself is necessary. If you haven't made this a habit yet, now is a good time to start. And if you're feeling lonely, remember that there are more people out there in the lonely hearts club like you who would appreciate a simple phone call, or you offering them a different plan for the day - how about it it, for example, to stream a film at the same time and then exchange ideas about it?

I wish you a happy Valentine's Day! ❤️